The Street Reality

You dey waka for town—maybe Bonaberi o UB junction, or campus in Yaoundé—then boom, e happen.
The smile. The curves. The fresh haircut.
Your exact crush type.

Before you know it, your mind don travel. You dey imagine hug, kiss, even romance. But wait—are you really going to talk to that person? Or na just daydream for your head?

Truth be say, if you no go approach your street crush, chat them up, or ever see them again—why waste your time?

Face the Facts: If E No Real, Forget Am

Sometimes we dey lust over one random crush wey no even know say we exist.

  • That girl wey dey cross the road—she get man already.
  • That guy wey dey for taxi—maybe he married sef.
  • That stranger wey you call crush—different culture, different background.

It’s like you dey look bag of money you no fit touch. Better to remove eye before you enter wahala.

For the Guys seing your Crush

Bro, if you see one fine girl for street, hips round like Ndolé plate—you fit admire. But if you no get boldness to approach, that crush na waste of energy.

  • Focus back on your grind.
  • Respect yourself.
  • Real romance dey happen when you talk, not when you just dey imagine your street crush.

For the Girls

Sista, sometimes you see that tall, broad-shoulder guy for campus. He fine. He be your kind crush material. You start daydream. But if you know say he no notice you—or he no go approach—no dey waste energy.

  • Build your value: books, career, hustle.
  • Keep your charm: your unique spirit go always show.
  • Stay the prize: don’t cheapen yourself by lusting after a crush wey no even see you.

Lusting = Daydreams That No Get Destination

Think am: if you no go touch, kiss, or ever talk to that crush, then no need to keep your mind stuck there.

Real gist: one time for Mile 17, I see one fine girl enter taxi. My mind almost travel, almost start seeing her as a quick crush, but then I tell myself: “Guy, if you no go toast am now, forget.” She drop, taxi drive go. End of story.

That’s how a small crush moment fit steal your whole day.

The Truth: People No Be Fantasy Objects

Guy with six-pack? Normal.
Girl with big hips? Normal.
That’s how God design humans.

You no need worship your random crush body features like na gold. Another person get am too. If you no go make a move, then face front.

I hear you bro 👊. You want this closing reflection turned into Cameroonian pidgin — raw, wise, and easy for your people to vibe with. Here’s a strong version that’ll land well at the end of your article:

Final Word (Pidgin Remix)

Make we reason am well. You fit dey see that fine slay queen — skin dey shine, figure eight dey correct, everybody dey turn look am. But ask yourself: if you sick, if wahala jam you, you sure say she go still stand by you?

Now imagine another babe. She still fine, she still attractive, but she no dey carry all that heavy slay package. No over-shine, no over-pride. Just average but clean. Na this kain babe fit stand by you when life rough.

Same for man dem too. Maybe your crush na tall guy with abs, money, and plenty show. But picture the simple average guy wey no dey for noise — na he fit protect you, respect you, and care for your peace.

See am like this: you dey for market, random guy push you. You vex wan fight. But your “average” babe hold you, push you aside from wahala, tell you: “My guy, no be everytin na fight. Calm ya body.” She even stand middle break the tension. That one na presence, that one na love.

E no mean say slay queen or big man no fit care. But remember — slay means plenty option, plenty pride, plenty eye dey their back. Not all wey shine na gold.

True attraction dey for wisdom. A woman wey fit advise you well. A man wey be builder, no wahala-bringer. Person wey desire your happiness and dey work for am steady.

Food for thought: shine your eye. Lust fit blind you, but love wey solid go stand by you

Final Word when you see your crush

Whether na boy or girl, remember:

  • Attraction is normal.
  • Crush wey no real action = useless.
  • Stay focused, stay grounded.

If you no go talk to them, no dey waste your time imagining romance wey no go ever happen.